The down-low on The Wonderful Wallflower:

Being an introvert in an extroverted world is hard. Being a member of the LGBTQ+ community is hard too. But being an LGBTQ+ introvert? Even harder. 

So whether you’re looking for college packing tips, how to make friends as an adult, the magic answer for how the hell you actually love yourself or help learning more about your identity, this is the place for you. 

This is The Wonderful Wallflower. This is the space for the quiet queers.

So what’s up with the name?

Why is the blog called The Wonderful Wallflower? Well, according to the internet, a wallflower is a shy or reserved person who usually stands on the sidelines. Also known as an introvert. And it’s usually not seen as a good thing.

There’s actually a lot of overlap between being introverted and being queer. Being extroverted, just like being cis and straight, is seen as the norm or the ideal. So when you don’t fit the mould, sometimes you feel like an outsider looking in.

But the truth is, despite what people say, the quiet queers are wonderful human beings. And it’s time we start loving us for who we are.

This is where The Wonderful Wallflower comes in. The goal of this blog is to create a safe and loving space for quiet queers to feel like they can truly be themselves.

Hi there, I’m Anika!

*smiles awkwardly*

From playing with toys alone for hours on end to not speaking up much in class, I knew from a pretty young age that I was an introvert. And on top of that, I identify as a member of the LGBTQ+ community as a panromantic demisexual/gray asexual.

Growing up, I didn’t see a lot of people like me. So I wanted to create this space to help LGBTQ+ introverts like me survive their college/university years and their 20s.

Living in Toronto, Canada, I’m making my way in the real world as a copywriter. When I’m not blogging, you can find me trying to rollerskate without falling and trying to cook without burning anything.